Myths about Pornography
PORNOGRAPHY, THERAPY|
Myths about Pornography
1- “It is normal…everyone is doing it…it doesn’t hurt anyone”
2- You can stop if you want to.
3- You are a sexual deviant if you use porn
4- It will take years to stop this behavior if you can stop at all.
Just because many people are using porn does not make it harmless. It is unhealthy to use pornography. It is harmful to you, the individual, to your family, to your spouse or partner. It is detrimental to career, family, and dignity. What is harmful is that you end up becoming reliant on fantasy and images to get through a day of boredom, anxiety, unrest, depression, and unhappiness. He cannot really live in the real world and enjoy the everyday experiences of family, work, leisure time, etc.
Typically you cannot stop because you are addicted to a dopamine fix in your brain. You have to have a high level of erotic stimulation in order to be satisfied. Porn gives you that out in a most powerful way. The impact on the brain is comparable to heroine, in fact, it is even more lethal since you don’t need a pusher or a drug, you only need an imagination filled with erotic images or a computer screen. And it is fairly easy to conceal from others.
You are only a sexual deviant if you rape or are violent with sex. Your porn use is more an addiction, a need for high intensity erotic stimulation. Your brain is addicted to high levels of dopamine and endorphins, and you are unable to experience pleasure with low levels of dopamine you would get from ordinary life situations with your family, friends, at work or at play.
My Therapy helps you change from needing high levels of dopamine to being able to enjoy everyday life situations that you probably now see as boring and unpleasant. I had a client tell me recently, “I just realized over the past few days that I am now enjoying my work where before it was mundane and boring. This is much better”. And if you are dedicated and consistent with participation in Therapy I can help you in 2-12 months.
